Do Problems Really Exist? How Changing Our Perspective Can Change Our Life

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Can changing your perspective really change your life? The answer is YES! according to Moshe Gersht. In this excerpt from his best-selling book, It’s All the Same to Me: A Torah Guide to Inner Peace and Love of Life*, he explains how.

Challenges can either awaken you or pull you into a deeper sleep. 

I believe it begins with clarifying the language we use. Our general assumption is that all challenges are “bad,” and in this light we call them “problems.” But are there really problems? What if we changed the way we looked at our difficulties?

The Latin root of the word “problem” is problema, which means throwing forth a question or situation. Situations arise, and they can be viewed as a question. The question goes like this: What are you going to do about . . . ? It’s a question about what you are going to do. How you are going to respond. The question is not how do you feel about this? 

We often walk around assuming the basic question is how do I feel about this? And very often the answer we give is I really don’t like this. When we assume this question, we are bound to go for a bumpy ride. Our inner answer to any question about our feelings sounds something like good, bad, good, great, amazing, terrible, bad, worse, better, good, and so on. We set ourselves up to judge and assess everything that happens because there is another underlying question behind how do you feel; namely, is this good or bad? 

What happens when we drop this question and move deeply into a totally new experience? What happens when you see life as being part of something much more vast, grand, and infinitely loving? What happens if the underlying assumption changes to “All things are good; there are no mistakes in the universe, and I am being taken care of and guided in all situations”?

What if, for a moment, we choose to see life through a different lens?

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We can choose to see our life situation as an enemy, an obstacle, or a means to an end in any situation; this means we’re defending, hating, defeating, overcoming, and using life. Or, we can choose to see life (and particularly our “problems”) as a friend to love, a detour to embrace, and an opportunity to appreciate and experience. 

The Universe is always saying, I will be whatever you want me to be. I’ll treat you how you treat me. If you see circumstance as a problem, it will be a problem for you, won’t it? If you choose to see opportunities, what type of action do you think you’ll make in response?

We respond with better quality when we see things with a higher-quality perspective. Don’t create any more pain for yourself by resisting what is and by wanting to be someone else, somewhere else, or doing something else. We only have two options: accept the unacceptable when there is nothing to do about it, or take action.

Sometimes taking action is self- defense. Sometimes it is saying something, and sometimes it means to leave a particular situation. If there is nothing you can do about something, then to maintain an “inner no” to life is somewhat of insanity. It would serve you better to have an “inner yes” to life, accept, and move forward.

The Universe Will Always Treat You The Way You Treat It

This is the rule of measure for measure.

Every challenge contains within it a hidden light we just can’t see yet. They say we need to learn how to roll with the punches. When approaching this topic, I think of this acronym R.O.L.L. with the punches. See all the punches as: 

Reminders—of what’s important and what’s real. 

Opportunities—that have not been revealed yet. 

Lessons—to be learned. 

Leading—in a new and significant direction you might never have taken otherwise. 

Remember that anything we label as “bad” is really just a portal, a channel, and a reminder of our destiny. Use it. Use the hard experiences as opportunities to go deeper into your true nature, which is the light you truly are.

The love that you are. The creative person that you are. The kind person that you are. 

The forgiving person that you are. The powerful person that you are. The soulful person that you are. Let go of whatever is false and grab onto truth. 

A practice that is incredibly useful is to keep a reminder journal. Mentally scroll through your life and identify the times where it was clear to you that what on the surface appeared as trouble was in fact a reminder, opportunity, lesson, or led you in a new direction toward something important. Keeping track of these experiences strengthens your resolve and consciousness of living with a higher order. You may borrow stories and lessons from others that have inspired you as well. There is no limit to where you can draw inspiration from on your journey toward awakening.

About the Author

Moshe Gersht is an author, sought-after speaker, and spiritual teacher. Moshe’s new book, It’s All The Same To Me: A Torah Guide to Inner Peace and Love of Life* (Spirit House, February 16, 2021, 978-1736139004) became an instant USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestseller. After a decade and a half of deep and dedicated study, It’s All The Same To Me gives readers a new lens on life. In this spiritual guide, Moshe inspires readers to discover the freedom and joy of a life lived in connected “sameness.” Gersht introduces the powerful kaballistic idea of Hishtavus, which reveals how transcending our ego is not only essential to personal happiness but also the key to loving every aspect of our life.

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